The Missing Link

Like links in a chain, what you are going to discover in this book is that there is a missing link. I have spent 54 years on this rock and just figured out it is not about me! Growing up, I could see that my father was the poster child for being a narcissist. According to the dictionary, “A narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. Narcissists think the world revolves around them.” I must have gotten this from my father.


My question is, “Where is the pill for this?”


“Take two of these and call me in the morning,” is what I wanted to hear from the counselor.


I did not want to change; I just wanted the way I was thinking to go away. Ford Taylor, an author and leadership guru, just announced there is no cure for narcissism. If you are what you eat, then by all means, we are a product of our environment growing up as well. As a man, I will speak for the rest of us when I say, “If I only knew what I didn’t know, I would have known how to have been a better man.”


Life would have been so much more meaningful. Choices I made would have been without devastating consequences. What I discovered was that I had an orphan heart. In my testimony, you will see how this has affected every decision I have ever made.


Getting through this book, you will be able to get a better picture of why there is a Missing Link. There will also be a few chapters that will speak truth into your life. It is up to you to not breeze through this for entertainment but read it for transformation and apply what you read into your life.


If you’re a person who likes to read fast and then go back for the details, please use a highlighter and pen to write notes as you read. Then when you go back, you can see how these truths affected you at the time. If you are a slow reader and the information needs to sink in before you can go to the next chapter, please take the time to do just that.


At the end of each chapter there is a chapter challenge to show you an action step toward rebuilding the missing link. Change only comes with transformational reading. If you can change your thoughts, you can change your destiny.


Missing Link Defined

Men have lost their way, and the social crisis we face is that the family has been devastated by their lack of leadership in the home. I was blindsided in my own life, and it resulted in a train wreck that derailed my life.


Once I noticed what happened, I started seeing a pattern in the lives of other men. I started seeing other families struggling. I started seeing the blind spots in others and how obvious my blind spots were to everyone except me, but that is why they call it a blind spot. How can we turn things around before families are destroyed? What is missing? What is the link that we all must identify and change?


I do not know why God has placed it on my heart to write this book. I really do not want to relive some of the things that happened in my past. I am going to push though this because if it is not about me, then it must be for you.